Bigger break than expected

I never intended to be away this long from the blog and I can’t promise that I will get back into regular posting any time soon. However those of you who have followed me for a while deserve an update so here it is.

Over the last few months Mr Myasthenia Kid and I have been sorting out his late mothers estate ready for probate ( this is a thing we do in the UK, it just means that the will that has been left is legally binding and that inheritance tax is sorted if the estate is worth more than a set amount ). We have also been winding up her accounts and any payments due. At times this has felt like a full time job, every day off during the week Mr Myasthenia Kid and I have had to make various phone calls etc with some company’s being so inept even when dealing with a bereavement team that multiple phone calls have been made, letters to CEO’s have been delivered and on a few occasions we have been awarded compensation due to the mess they have made.

It seriously feels like we haven’t had a day off from this in months and now whilst probate has been granted and the last little bits and pieces are getting done, we now have to sell our home of 18 years. 

Selling a house is stressful, combine that with the loss of both of your husbands parents and the stress levels rocket to something you have never seen before. When I do get a minute to call my own, which is really bloody rare currently it is mainly spent zombie like due to exhaustion. I am waiting for an enormous crash, my health has taken some really dodgy turns over the last few months. On a couple of occasions I have almost called 999 for an ambulance as I have had bowel adhesion pain so bad I have passed out. I have had week’s of non stop migraines triggered by occipital neuralgia and that has then impacted my sleep. At least once a week we travel down to the new house to ensure that everything is ok and that is also adding to my levels of fatigue. I have got to the point of just wanting the whole silly game to be over with and we only had the photos taken by the estate agent this morning – I am writing this on Wednesday.

Our home has had to have some decorating done and some tidying up in places. It is hard work scheduling everything in when you have so many different things to deal with. Finally things are coming together and we are in a position where we can put our happy home up for sale. Which I never ever thought we would do as after moving here in 2003, I categorically stated I would never, ever move house again! 

I know that we are really lucky in the fact we can move our belongings into the new place and not have to do a mad one day move that is the norm. I can’t wait to have my bed down at the house as the bed that is there at the moment isn’t very comfortable. It is always the same though isn’t it? There is nothing like your own bed. Although Mr Myasthenia Kid reckons he sleeps better at the new house than he does here.

Our current home is now just a shell, all we have left to move down are the white goods, my bed ( including mattress) and some bits and pieces. The rest is either being left for the new owner or given away via a local group on Facebook to families in need. I often go to put something away and realise that I no longer own it or it is down at the new house. It does feel like we are constantly living in limbo not quite belonging here but equally not 100% belonging there.

My emotions are all over the place, I go through regular waves of overwhelming sadness at losing my in laws, leaving this house, leaving my home town of 26 years, leaving my friends and valuable support network. To then being filled with excitement at the new adventure before us, coming up with plans for the garden and colour schemes for the rooms. At times it can feel quite wrong to be pleased about the new house because it came at such a high price. There is just so much to process that I just don’t have any desire to write either blogs. I need a break from everything but I can see it being a few months until we actually do finally feel grounded again.

So due to this my blogging maybe sporadic as it has been since October. Sometimes life just gets in the way. With so many changes happening in a small period of time, I simply can’t keep all the plates spinning like I did when life was a tad quieter and simpler.

Keep everything crossed for us that the house sale goes smoothly, we could do with a bit of good luck for a change!

Self Care

Firstly I am doing a lot better than I was doing last week. I got some diazepam from my doctor which stopped the spasms and allowed me to just reset everything so that I wasn’t in constant pain with the occipital neuralgia.

I have had a few more bouts of bowel adhesion pain, I have no idea what is triggering it other than possibly stress. As usual there are things going on that I can’t blog about as they are deeply personal and private. The stress is also contributing to a few visits of insomnia. Today my tired is tired! 

So I have reluctantly decided that I need to have a break and step away from the blog for a couple of weeks. Coming up with a post every week is adding more pressure to me and life is already hard enough at the moment. I would have been having a break next week anyway as it is mine and Mr Myasthenia Kids birthday. When I will be back? Sadly I can’t say at the moment. I don’t envision it to be any more than a few weeks at most. 

Sometimes I just need to catch my breath and take the pressure off myself. Mr Myasthenia Kid, Dembe and me are all ok, so please no one panic about us. There are things going on outside of us which is not for me to discuss and for it to be out there in the world. At some point I will be able to say just not right now.

For now self care takes priority.